Am I expecting too much?

My husband constantly comes home and goes through a laundry list of questions “did you shower, did you do laundry, did you do the dishes, what did you feed our daughter for lunch”

And he is constantly telling me I am failing at my job as a SAHM. I’ve told him repeatedly and in marriage counseling that I hate that phrasing. I’ve asked him to rephrase but he doesn’t even acknowledge it.

Am I expecting too much to ask him to be respectful when he talks even if he’s mad at me?