My wife has never had an orgasm and she’s concerned she never will.

My wife and I both lost our virginity to each other and she never masturbated before marriage either. So she doesn’t know the ins/outs of her body and what makes her achieve an orgasm. We do utilize toys like clit sucker, wand, vibrator.

She feels like she’s gotten close many times, but she feels like she has never had an orgasm.

After too long of feeling too good with nothing happening she just gives up and we’ve decided that sex is about the journey not the destination for her.

She has spoken to multiple doctors about this.

She suffers from pretty bad anxiety, she gets distracted easily and needs the mood to be perfect to even be able to enjoy sex. Thinking about a random song or what’s on the to do list or work, it pulls her completely out of the mood.

She’s pretty sure she has experienced trauma that she thinks is preventing her from achieving an orgasm.

She has told me over the years of being married that I, her, we are doing a good job, and here and there things feel extra good and she feels so close, but she just can’t cross the edge seemingly no matter what we do.

Anyone have experience with this? Anyone have advice on how to overcome?

The doctors have basically said, don’t focus on achieving an orgasm, just have fun. And have given tips for her to be in the right headspace.

But I worry and wonder if/when she’ll ever have one, and what can I do to help…