Where we are now...

After so many conversations and miscommunication and tears and laughs I think I know where we are.

Having our relationship during his marriage was one of the factors that led to him freaking out. He felt like he was being unfair to me and couldn't handle it. If you've read my other posts, you know there was a lot of other stuff involved but this was part of it.

He still is planning on getting divorced but needs to do it in his own time. He in therapy to get help and is working through his issues.

A few weeks ago I confronted him to say that I felt like he was just running away from anything difficult or hard in his life. He got mad at first, but then he opened up.

Therapy has helped him see other issues in his life that he didn't realize were part of his problem and is now finally able to work on them. It was an illuminating conversation.

Up to that point we had been sort of walking on eggshells with each other and I didn't know how to talk to him anymore. But that conversation really broke the ice.

We're back to how we were before he told me he was Divorcing and we started our "relationship". I've got my best friend back finally and that has meant the most to me.

So, he's working on himself on his own timeline and I... am free to date whoever and if I'm still there when he is finally free he wants that. But he doesn't want to tie me down to waiting for him.

My life is super busy with exciting new things so I'm not really concerned about dating at the moment. But I am so glad we cleared the air and are finally on the same page. And my best friend is back 😊